A New And Better Feeling Is Starting

  • By dmoody6017
  • On January 14, 2014

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I want to wish everyone a new and exciting 2014. Welcome back to Moodyspeaks and my personal journey in life and business. Thanks for taking time for reading my blog and sharing my blog with others. My blog has been viewed over 14,175 times and in 65 countries. One of the things I have learned since starting my blog, and writing about being a sexual abuse survivor. I have learned there aren’t many places to go and read or listen to someone talk about the journey and impact sexual abuse has on their lives or the success in overcoming  the damage done. So often we read about successful people, athletes, entertainers, and other celebrities coming out and saying they had been sexually abused as a child, but they don’t really talk about their journey of healing.
By the feedback and number of readers, I realized so many people want to understand the journey of healing. I know first hand when you are going through the panic attacks and affects of PTSD from childhood sexual abuse, you feel so alone and weird. You really don’t want to discuss it with anyone. During my lowest points of dealing with being sexually abused as a child, I searched for stories of people who describe their journey of healing, and I could not find that story. I wanted to read and listen to others that overcame panic attacks, PTSD, and other affects survivors suffer from in life. Because I knew how much I needed to hear and read about the journey of healing.  I decided to be transparent with my blog and the journey of healing. I hope my story will help someone else heal and be able to enjoy a happy and fulfilling life.
I want others to know we are not alone, we aren’t weird, and most importantly we can overcome and thrive with great lives. As I go through my science experiment of this journey, I have learned so much about the body and mind. I still have moments when a trigger, such as someone trying to take advantage of me in a daily life or business situation, or someone I trust breaks that trust, I can feel my PTSD start to overcome my body. My body starts to feel cold and I can’t seem to warm up, I feel my body tense up, I can get sluggish, and I might even get a low-grade headache. Sometimes I feel the doom and gloom kick in. I use to fight this feeling and it only made it worse.  Now when something triggers PTSD or the panic feeling, I just go with it, I let it run its course. I tell myself everything is ok and just allow my body and mind to go through the process. Because now I understand and allow the process to run its course, and it is over much quicker and easier.
I still have moments with the feelings of panic attacks. Even though I have not had a full-blown panic attack in 20 years, I have the feeling creep up more than I like, but I take time to breathe, relax and get back in the game of life. Because I had my first one driving 23 years ago, I still have some days when driving alone can take me back 23 years to my first panic attack. Even though I understand panic attacks. Just the thought of them can still make me nervous. I have missed meetings at times because of the panic attack feeling and I just want to stay in my safe zone. My safe zone is my office, home, exercises, or outdoors with nature. Sometimes I miss my rotary meetings and other business meetings because of that panic feeling and I just don’t feel like fighting the panic feeling of driving, even though I know everything really is ok. I know for some people reading this post will think this is weird, but those that have lived through panic attacks and or PTSD understands every word.
Over the last 23 years when it all started, I use to think I was weak because I couldn’t rid myself of panic attacks, PTSD and other affects from my childhood trauma. But since I started this journey in 2010 when I visited the Georgia Center for Child Advocacy and started on a true path of healing, I have realized how strong I really have been in my life. I had the courage to start a business from scratch, raise a family, be involved in my community, push myself when I didn’t want to drive alone. I push myself when the PTSD wanted me to stop trying. I have pushed myself and never lost the desire to be happy, to smile and enjoy life. I pushed myself to never lose my faith in God, I push myself to let my life and my actions give others hope for happiness. I have pushed myself to share my story with whomever wants to read about my journey of healing.
I am working hard in my business with running it with a new found freedom from my childhood trauma. I am at a new place in my life and it is very weird for me. I spent the last 47 years hiding from my childhood sexual abuse. For the first time I am transparent with myself about it, it happened, and I am stronger and better than I have given myself credit. I am already seeing the benefits of some decisions I have taken in my business, my personal life and photography. For the first time my eyes are wide open, my mind and heart is wide open to receive love and enjoy the beauty that awaits me in life.
I will continue to share this journey of healing, and please pray for all of us that have suffered a trauma that still impacts our lives. Pray we realize we are not alone and our past won’t control our present or future. We are more than surviving, we are thriving.
Keep going for your dreams and enjoy life. Life is great and jump in and enjoy it all. Please enjoy some recent pictures I took over the last month. We have a beaver and an otter taking over our pond. I have attached quick  video from me just saying a few words. I thought I would try something new by saying few words on a video to go along with my written words. The video is 55 seconds. I will be back soon to Moodyspeaks. Enjoy

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  • Jan 19 2014
[…] A New And Better Feeling Is Starting […]
infarmol (@infarmol)
  • Jan 29 2014
Thank you so much for this.
Anthony Gates
  • Jan 15 2015
Good day Mr. Moody. I have been in business here in the Atlanta area for 17 years now growing my construction company. I was inspired to respond to your blog because your story of encouragement uplifting others to not give up and to keep moving forward reminds me of my struggles being a Minority owned company. I too have had some trying experiences and find myself at a cross roads between the expansion of my company and the service to others in a much grander way. The construction industry has allowed me to reach clients and not just give them a satisfying project but to also reach them in a self helping way to make a difference in their lives one project at a time. I'm at a cross roads because like you I have a calling to reach others through my story and by helping them reach their full potential. I am not as successful as I would like to be but I am networking to get there by doing business with larger firms. I'm at this cross roads because I realized that I want to travel the world healing others and teaching them to put in the work to heal ones self. I have done this for myself while trying to bring my company back from the recession. One day I hope to sit down with you and share my journey with you and be blessed by your inspirational thoughts. I wish for your new found journey to be a blessing to you and your family and a continued inspiration for others as they seek success. Again I Would Love To Work WITH You in Your Work To Inspire Others!! Anthony Gates
    • Jan 15 2015
    Thanks for the kind words and I look forward to talking with you soon. Keep going for your dreams.
Katrina Ogbe (Obey)
  • Jan 23 2015
Mr. Moody, Greetings to you and your family. It is always great to see a family that works together as well as having the understanding and patience with each other. I am writing to see if you would be interested in bringing your story out in film by collaborating with an author from Georgia, Mrs. Stephanie Perry Moore (www.stephanieperrymoore.com). She has a movie titled "Real Love" based on one of her book called "Staying Pure". She is currently looking for someone to help sponsor her work to get it on film. The person who will be able to help sponsor will have the opportunity to be a producer for the film. Your story could be through the main character's boyfriend, Tad or her first boyfriend, Dakari. Just reading the first book of the series will have you captivated to where each person will be able to relate with the story either through their life or someone they know. This book will be able to touch all your senses where you will laugh, cry, and keep you in suspense. Again your story can be included by showing others a story with the character going through the struggles and healing journey one can take. My husband and I had a group home for teenaged girls who had been abused or neglected that went through different struggles. We read the series as a group and they were excited about sharing the books with their friends. We are talking about a group where books were not cool(smile). But I saw how it made a difference in some of them whether it was long or short term (Lol). My husband and I named the home Reach Home based off the scripture, Philippians 3:13. This was the vision for the home. Your advice, resources, or financial support would be very helpful to many who still need to see the journey of healing on film. It would be an honor to have your family involved. If you would like a copy of the manuscript, I could have the author send it to you or meet with you and your family. If not, I want to still thank you for being a blessing to many out there who desperately need to hear from you. I will continue to pray for you and others through their journey of healing. I enjoy reading your blog because it helps me understand better as a Social Worker what a person goes through and how I can be more supportive and helpful. P.S. One word of advice, don't claim PTSD by saying, "my PTSD..."

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