Survivor Stories

Survivor’s Story- It is never to late. By Sharyl

  • By dmoody6017
  • On February 19, 2016

It’s NEVER too Late
My name is Sharyl. I am 54 years old. I am a survivor of sexual, physical, mental, and emotional abuse. My uncle, whom I loved and respected dearly, sexually abused me at the age of 12 for 4 summers. This was a very confusing time for me because I loved how he treated me during the day but I dreaded and hated the nights. I hated myself and I blamed myself for everything because I went back every summer. I did not understand until recently that the physical, mental, and verbal abuse I received at home left me craving for positive attention. My uncle provided the love and attention I so craved, but at a very high cost. I began to use food to deal with life. At first I starved myself believing I didn’t deserve to eat. It was also a way for me to have some manner of control in a very out of control life. Eventually, being the weak person that I thought I was, I started to eat and turned to bulimia, the best friend I ever had. It was always there for me. I used it to punish myself, to praise myself, when I was happy, sad, lonely, in need of avoidance or to procrastinate. It was my all-purpose excuse for everything. You name it, it fulfilled the need. My abuse cycle has continued throughout my adult life. I still use food for everything. I have also allowed men to continue to abuse me, yes, even rape me. It has only been in the past few years that I have finally released the blame and shame I have carried all of these years. Many of us turn to unhealthy coping mechanisms to deal with the pain involved with abuse. We try to numb ourselves, we deny, we avoid, and we punish ourselves because we believe it was our fault. We don’t believe we deserve any better. More often than not, these coping mechanisms become our addictions. Sexual abuse leaves one feeling despicable, unworthy, undeserving, filthy, and dirty, BUT this is not us, this is what was done to us. Sexual abuse affects one on all levels: physical, mental, emotional, as well as spiritually. It is NEVER a child’s fault when an adult does sexually inappropriate things to a child. If you are living your life through the eyes and experiences of your inner child, get help. You deserve it. It is never too late to give your little boy or little girl the love, support, respect, protection, and nurturing they deserve. Loving ourselves is one of the hardest yet MOST rewarding things we can do in this life.

Linda Davis
  • Feb 20 2016
Thank you for sharing, Sharyl. I am so proud to be your sister. I love you and want you to know you can call me ANYTIME day or night if you are ever struggling with anything or just need to talk. You are such a caring, giving person. I am so glad you are learning to love yourself. I LOVE YOU SIS!!
Spanish Johnny
  • Feb 21 2016
Bravo! This is incredibly inspiring; indeed, never too late. 42 years in silence - now I move forward! Walk Tall!
  • Mar 14 2016
Thankyou for sharing your Abuse circle. It's all to familiar almost text book the sickness and self loathing. I buried mine over 20 years ago (with occasional flash back) but overall survived an trived in spite of it. little boy told me that his daddy had been touching and much more. I stayed strong took all the appropate steps Counceling,contacting authorities, local government, ministers Dr's the list goes on. My son has been robbed and left without a voice (too young). I try and normalize life as much as possible. As a result my past came back and hit hard over the past 3 years and fear has cripped me more then I'll ever admit to anyone (I hide it well most days). All I want is my child to have he voice heard and to smile like he used to

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